Hear Me Out – Presidential Election.

This is going to be a difficult one to post. I have often blogged unpopular opinions, but I know that this one is a massive deal to people. Which is why I’m pleading with you to stick with me and hear me out. Don’t jump to conclusions. Don’t shut down what I’m about to say before reading this post. Just hear me out.

I do not like Donald Trump (obvious, right?). I also do not like Hillary Clinton. I think of the 318 million people in the US, a better candidate could have been chosen (ahem, Bernie!). After the whole non-voting Brexit dilemma that I wrote about at the time, I wanted to be more informed from now on, despite being unable to vote from the UK.

However, the thing that has bothered me most about this election is that, like others before it, people seem incapable of having a discussion without either getting personal, getting offended, judging people’s morals as a whole because of who they’d vote for, or just ignoring anyone who doesn’t agree with them.

I tried to keep up with the debates, the news, reading away from the mainstream media, and honestly, I was struggling to find reasons to like either of them.

However, and thiiis is the bit where I ask you to hear me out, I was able to question the things I had heard about Trump. Some of the things.

Some things I agreed with him over – namely making pals with Russia.
I think ‘the wall’ is a divisive and disgusting tactic, but think it was dramatising a border that already exists. If Hillary got in, she wasn’t removing the border.
Again, I feel the need to say this, I’m not sticking up for the man! I just like to look at things from all perspectives. I do it with everything.
In fact, one person did mention the healthcare policies, and I’m not for it, but apparently it is part of an overhaul on the plan. It might be, it might not be. We don’t know what will happen yet. The fact is, as soon as I was told these things, I went and looked into them further.

In contrast, I hadn’t heard much about Hillary’s policies or why people supported/didn’t support her and wanted to learn more. When I asked people (in the most genuine way) on Facebook (when will I learn? Probably never) what I shoud like about Hillary, and asked people to point me towards some good things about her, nobody did. Instead, people once again told me all about Trump being a misogynist, racist and even a Nazi. From what I’ve seen of him, I can’t disagree with all of that. However, I still had no idea why Hillary was better.

I once again said that I was looking for why people would vote FOR a candidate, rather than just AGAINST another.

From the Clinton side, I have read of paedophilia, arms dealing, and that she said she fancies a fight with Russia (okay, maybe not said quite like that!). From the Trump side, I saw that he said some pretty awful things about women and a wall. Obviously I would be totally against this classless man having any power. But on the other side, there is someone who is okay with yet another war, is still in a partnership with a paedophile, and has dealt weapons on a huge scale – I was worried about her too.

Now I know that there has been a sensitive issue for some people regarding Trump. People have said they now feel unsafe because he spreads hate and encourages it. That he is the pinnacle of rape culture. That he’s homophobic. He’s certainly not innocent and his upcoming trials are a concern. I obviously do not like these traits and feel like I shouldn’t have to keep saying that.
But I think that when somebody asks you questions about him, or questions the way you’re thinking, by attacking them for not understanding or knowing everything ever, you yourself are spreading hate.

Here are a few things from my tiny amount of discussion on the subject:

1) My Facebook question was answered by only two people, despite there being an insane amount of comments.

2) Due to my further questioning on the Facebook post, some friends decided to stop talking. I didn’t disagree with them. I just asked why again. They gave no answer and left the conversation.

3) At my friends house, before the debate, she mentioned Trump. I started a sentence with ‘Well, actually…’ I didn’t get any further. I certainly wasn’t going to say ‘Well, actually, I love him.’ She was actually annoyed that I might possibly say something she didn’t agree with and asked me to go no further.

4) One of my close friends stopped speaking to me (for the day at least).

So in this time of pretty great concern (according to a LOT of people), I am left feeling a bit alone, and completely attacked by the very people who are concerned about the election, the people who claim we should be sticking together – for asking a simple question. Why would you vote FOR Hillary rather than AGAINST Trump? Because that’s how I want voting to work. In an ideal world. I want to be able to vote for the best and not against the worst.

I know the people I refer to above mean no harm. I know they’re not trying to completely invalidate the things I’m saying or asking. But they did.

These are just the people who responded. I hadn’t discussed the election before the results with anyone but my boyfriend, because it’s just not worth it. And THAT’S my issue! As I said with Brexit, we NEED to talk about politics more. We need to think critically, and be able to discuss the big things. We need to look at things from a different perspective. I want to have REAL conversations, ones that open my eyes. I WANT you to tell me I’m wrong about things and tell me why.

When you are not willing to have a discussion unless everyone agrees with you, you’re just fuelling your own thoughts, taking in nothing new and educating nobody.

We need to talk about the bigger issues. We need to have people challenge us. And no matter what, when times are hard, we need to stick together.

I hope this post is taken as it should be, just a way to express that despite the election, I have a bigger worry about our inability to discuss important issues. I added my concerns over both candidates to add some perspective as to what the conversations were.
This post is definitely a bit rambly, so thank you for sticking with me.

I feel I should once again state that I absolutely do not think either of them deserved that position.
If you do comment, please be respectful of other readers and commenters.

This post is very honest and a little bit worrying to post considering the backlash I’ve had so far. I often wonder whether I should publish these types of posts because I do not want them to affect my readers or my collaborations in a negative way, but each time I push myself to hit the button, because if I don’t, I’m a hypocrite. So here I am, talking about the big things.

 

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