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My thoughts on the EU Referendum.

It seems wrong that I would have a lifestyle blog that touches on subjects of all kinds, without mentioning the EU Referendum, one of the biggest changes in the UK to happen in my lifetime.
We’ve all heard the discussions, we’ve talked about our votes, and we’ve seen a lot of heated debates online and offline. I thought I’d share my thoughts so far on the Brexit decision.

My thoughts on Brexit EU Ref

As a full disclaimer, I have a confession. I didn’t vote . Before you get angry at me, please let me explain myself. Usually, I don’t feel that people need to justify themselves, but if I’m going to write about it, I should.

I have never felt like I wanted to vote, because I never feel I’m being given enough information. I always think there is too much held back for me to make an informed decision. As much as I am glad to be part of a democracy, I have always had very little faith in what we are being asked to vote for. The amount of broken promises, poor excuses, and tit-for-tat childish political debates I have seen in my short voting life has put me off being any part of it.

I thought the same of the EU referendum for most of the time it has been discussed. I tried looking into it a bit, but got fed up of trawling through pointless, biased articles of lies or simply unknown outcomes. I wanted something clearer that would tell me exactly what I would be choosing. As it came closer to the vote, I realised that while trying to be fair in my research, I was ignoring what I already knew.

This brilliant, unbiased post by Gwennan Rees on the EU Referendum made me really think and was really helpful in pushing me further to care more about the vote. I came to the conclusion that I was and always had been on the side of Remain, I just didn’t realise as I was too busy being ignorant and thinking about the usual choices I had been asked to make when it came to political votes.
The Leave campaign made a few comments on what we ‘might’ get, but there was nothing certain about it, and anything that seemed to be decided was definitely too good to be true.

By the time I realised this, it was too late. I was in bed with the flu on the day of the vote, and while I could have more passionately tried to make sure I voted somehow, I didn’t.

I know everybody says if you didn’t vote, you don’t get a say and you could have made a difference, but the results were so substantial that I would have made no difference. (I know, I know, what if everyone who said that voted – no, it still wouldn’t have changed the vote).

With Remain, we had plenty to go on and I was fairly confident others would feel the same. I woke up in absolute shock at the results, and like a lot of you, spent all morning looking into the results further, checking everything from demographics to online posts and comments. I actually couldn’t believe that the voting had gone that way. That Britain had chosen to leave the EU. In fact, my first word when I woke up Friday morning was ‘Fuck’ (I’m a classy girl, I know).

However, when checking through polls, I didn’t instantly think the older generation voted Leave because they didn’t care about our future. I also didn’t think it was only less educated people or racists that had voted in favour of Leave. I didn’t blame people for believing mass media (and trust me, that’s my usual go to), because everyone who voted did in some way or another. I was actually disgusted that people would make such remarks and unable to post my views online, not because I was scared, but because I didn’t want to be part of any of that. I did write a short post about the people moaning at others for discussing such an important topic. Sorry, we can all go back to posting food pics soon!

Just because somebody voted differently to you, it does not mean they are wrong in their choice. Maybe they made an informed decision, just like you did. I do think that more personal research could have been done by some people, as their reasons don’t sit well with me, but I didn’t attack them or call them out. 

I would be interested to know why people voted Leave outside of the stereotypical reasons being thrown around. While I was against the Leave vote, I do understand some of the concerns and can see why some people would vote against Remain.

As for the fall out already seen, please be mindful of what you see in the media compared with what is actually happening. For example, watch the speeches made rather than read snippets in the papers.

This post is mostly just to say that I am shocked and saddened by the comments I’ve seen surrounding all of this. The problem with living our lives online is that we think what we say is more important than what others have to say. We have been given a platform to voice opinions and write or talk to an audience, but have forgotten that some things are about conversation.

Maybe more conversation would have changed how people thought about this vote. If you did do your research, and posted about it, and voted, then good on you!
Something I really hate is when people say you shouldn’t talk about politics. If this referendum has taught us anything, it’s that we should talk about it more.

And one last thing, can we get a bloody Welsh dragon on the flag now?!

What are your thoughts? Is it something you like to discuss or do you stay away from it?

Tina x

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15 Comments

  • Reply twentysomethingmeltdown

    I can’t tell you how much I enjoyed this post. Like I tried to articulate on Twitter I think it’s so important to find out why some people didn’t vote. Although you came to a conclusion in the end, you originally felt so disengaged with voting that you didn’t think you’d bother and I think that’s a demographic the politicians really didn’t tap into. I did my own research and formed my own opinion because I was passionate about voting and about my own opinions but it’s ridiculous really (as lovely and flattering as it is) that my post helped you come to a conclusion when really it should have been the campaigners.

    I think the scariest thing was the fear of the unknown and for me voting remain meant more of the same and voting leave meant what we have now – complete collapse of the political parties and a decision nobody had a plan for. In the end I voted on what I DIDN’T want to happen because nobody could really answer what was going on.

    I totally agree with you, some people did vote Leave for undesirable reasons and some voted in protest and some voted and now regret it but we can’t change the vote and we can’t punish each other and let it divide us because we crossed a different box on a piece of paper. Unless someone voted for purely racist reasons in which case, just no. I am still hoping someone comes along and tells me they voted leave for a reason that they researched and thought long and hard about, I want someone to tell me it’ll be ok!

    Longest comment I have ever left but seriously, I loved this post so much.

    Gwennan http://www.twentysomethingmeltdown.com xxx

    30 June 2016 at 19:25
    • Reply Tina

      I love long comments! It’s nice to know that someone fully understood and engaged with a post.
      I felt the same about leaving, I would have voted more for what I didn’t want.
      I do think it’s ridiculous that a blog post helped me realise what I was ignoring rather than campaigners. I’m really quite passionate about politics as a whole, but could never get into voting for the reasons outlined.
      Although after today’s events, I might just leave the country anyway! What a mess.
      Thanks for your amazing posts on the subject and such a great comment 🙂 xxx

      30 June 2016 at 23:20
  • Reply Lee

    I totally agree about how ill-informed we are all the time with regards to any political vote. The eu referendum was my first time voting but even then, I knew there were arguments being made for both sides that, for me, neither were strong enough or deserved to be taken seriously. I have always hated how childish and arrogant politicians can get and also people who really follow it and try to enforce their opinions on Facebook. It completely shocked me how people reacted to the result, and started insulting everyone. Words like stupid, arrogant, ignorent, uneducated were thrown about. I am also disheartened by how the rest of the world reacted. People from abroad joining in and commenting on the result with similar words as above being mentioned. Apparently, most of those who signed that petition were not even from the UK. It’s like, being in the eu meant more to other countries than the UK, but they reacted as though we don’t have a right to leave. And also, why does everyone think that being in the EU is the be all and end all? There are pros and cons to being in and out. Let’s just move on 🤓🤓🤓

    30 June 2016 at 23:40
    • Reply Tina

      Definitely, I don’t mind some posts informing me or helping me out, but I don’t like being told how to think and what kind of person I am if I hold a certain view (p.s.go look at my Facebook right now for a bit of action! Haha) I’m not sure if you looked at Gwennan’s post, but it was more helpful to me than any other articles I’ve seen from campaigners.
      I am surprised that people believed some of the claims, but it happens every time.

      Completely agree that there are pros and cons each way, and now is the time to take note about what’s being planned for our future.
      I think it’ll all work out, and believe that if that’s the way people voted, that’s what we go with. I wasn’t excited by the result, but I’m interested to see what happens next.
      Thanks for commenting, always love your comments! X

      30 June 2016 at 23:49
  • Reply ohhjacqui

    It’s good to talk about politics, when I was younger it was something you didn’t do, you just voted for who your parents voted for. I’m in no way a political master in fact I’ve learned more about politics from my 17 year old daughter and I’m happy that she’s so clues up on political issues, when it comes to me voting I vote for what’s going to be the best future for my children.
    I definitely don’t like the arguing that takes place especially on social media, I stay well away from that, well apart from the odd RT.
    I think being scottish having the last referendum definitely sparked a new interest for a lot of Scottish people and I’m pretty sure it won’t be long before it starts again but I’m the meantime I’m trying to watch & learn as much as I can because I feel the UK is uncertain. PS sorry this is the longest comment I’ve left & being dyslexic I hope its worded ok ❤

    2 July 2016 at 09:17
    • Reply Tina

      It’s worded brilliantly! Thank you so much for the comment, I love long comments!
      Same here, you were always told not to talk about politics are religion, so anything people are really passionate about.
      I’m definitely glad younger people are starting to take an interest in politics, I certainly didn’t until I went to uni and it affected me personally.
      I’m watching a lot more now as I didn’t take note of some of the things going on. I find YouTube to be best for it, as often the news only shows a snippet which can be taken either way.
      I definitely think it’s an interesting time for Scottish people.
      Thanks again for the comment! Sorry mine is long too haha Xx

      2 July 2016 at 09:26
      • Reply ohhjacqui

        Aw thanks lovely ❤ yes its definitely going to be a interesting year ahead so like you I’m just going to find out as much as I can & avoid conversation with really clever people lol In the end we can vote on what we have learned ourselfs & hopefully we make the correct choice ❤ have a wonderful weekend lovely ❤ xo

        2 July 2016 at 09:53
        • Reply Tina

          Exactly! You too xx

          2 July 2016 at 09:53
  • Reply Annie Omar

    I have a confession too. I did not vote and the reason for is so related to yours. I agree with every bit you said. To be honest I am still very confused about this whole procedure and that is why I always end up not give much of my thoughts towards it (I know I am very bad at this but I rather stay away from it other then fixing tangled threads in my head) My husband always say you should give your opinion and me’ may be one day x!

    10 July 2016 at 17:22
    • Reply Tina

      I get that, it’s sometimes easier to just ignore it than try and figure it all out. It’s so hard to find any helpful information. Even when I tried it was difficult, but I think the more we talk to others, the more we understand (I think!) Thanks for commenting, it’s good to know someone can relate X

      10 July 2016 at 20:04
  • Reply Katie Cupcake - Life with ME

    I agree, we should definitely talk about politics. It’s one of the single most important, relevant topics there is!

    I know you said you had flu on the day so this isn’t specifically about you but I do think those that felt disillusioned or ill-informed should turn up anyway and spoil the ballot. Otherwise it looks like apathy and a message of discontent won’t get registered at all.

    I also think my first word that day was fuck! 😂

    12 July 2016 at 06:46
    • Reply Tina

      Hahaha! Yeah I know what you mean, and I think from now on I will rather than just do nothing X

      12 July 2016 at 19:24
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