It seems wrong that I would have a lifestyle blog that touches on subjects of all kinds, without mentioning the EU Referendum, one of the biggest changes in the UK to happen in my lifetime.
We’ve all heard the discussions, we’ve talked about our votes, and we’ve seen a lot of heated debates online and offline. I thought I’d share my thoughts so far on the Brexit decision.
As a full disclaimer, I have a confession. I didn’t vote . Before you get angry at me, please let me explain myself. Usually, I don’t feel that people need to justify themselves, but if I’m going to write about it, I should.
I have never felt like I wanted to vote, because I never feel I’m being given enough information. I always think there is too much held back for me to make an informed decision. As much as I am glad to be part of a democracy, I have always had very little faith in what we are being asked to vote for. The amount of broken promises, poor excuses, and tit-for-tat childish political debates I have seen in my short voting life has put me off being any part of it.
I thought the same of the EU referendum for most of the time it has been discussed. I tried looking into it a bit, but got fed up of trawling through pointless, biased articles of lies or simply unknown outcomes. I wanted something clearer that would tell me exactly what I would be choosing. As it came closer to the vote, I realised that while trying to be fair in my research, I was ignoring what I already knew.
This brilliant, unbiased post by Gwennan Rees on the EU Referendum made me really think and was really helpful in pushing me further to care more about the vote. I came to the conclusion that I was and always had been on the side of Remain, I just didn’t realise as I was too busy being ignorant and thinking about the usual choices I had been asked to make when it came to political votes.
The Leave campaign made a few comments on what we ‘might’ get, but there was nothing certain about it, and anything that seemed to be decided was definitely too good to be true.
By the time I realised this, it was too late. I was in bed with the flu on the day of the vote, and while I could have more passionately tried to make sure I voted somehow, I didn’t.
I know everybody says if you didn’t vote, you don’t get a say and you could have made a difference, but the results were so substantial that I would have made no difference. (I know, I know, what if everyone who said that voted – no, it still wouldn’t have changed the vote).
With Remain, we had plenty to go on and I was fairly confident others would feel the same. I woke up in absolute shock at the results, and like a lot of you, spent all morning looking into the results further, checking everything from demographics to online posts and comments. I actually couldn’t believe that the voting had gone that way. That Britain had chosen to leave the EU. In fact, my first word when I woke up Friday morning was ‘Fuck’ (I’m a classy girl, I know).
However, when checking through polls, I didn’t instantly think the older generation voted Leave because they didn’t care about our future. I also didn’t think it was only less educated people or racists that had voted in favour of Leave. I didn’t blame people for believing mass media (and trust me, that’s my usual go to), because everyone who voted did in some way or another. I was actually disgusted that people would make such remarks and unable to post my views online, not because I was scared, but because I didn’t want to be part of any of that. I did write a short post about the people moaning at others for discussing such an important topic. Sorry, we can all go back to posting food pics soon!
Just because somebody voted differently to you, it does not mean they are wrong in their choice. Maybe they made an informed decision, just like you did. I do think that more personal research could have been done by some people, as their reasons don’t sit well with me, but I didn’t attack them or call them out.
I would be interested to know why people voted Leave outside of the stereotypical reasons being thrown around. While I was against the Leave vote, I do understand some of the concerns and can see why some people would vote against Remain.
As for the fall out already seen, please be mindful of what you see in the media compared with what is actually happening. For example, watch the speeches made rather than read snippets in the papers.
This post is mostly just to say that I am shocked and saddened by the comments I’ve seen surrounding all of this. The problem with living our lives online is that we think what we say is more important than what others have to say. We have been given a platform to voice opinions and write or talk to an audience, but have forgotten that some things are about conversation.
Maybe more conversation would have changed how people thought about this vote. If you did do your research, and posted about it, and voted, then good on you!
Something I really hate is when people say you shouldn’t talk about politics. If this referendum has taught us anything, it’s that we should talk about it more.
And one last thing, can we get a bloody Welsh dragon on the flag now?!
What are your thoughts? Is it something you like to discuss or do you stay away from it?